November Reflections

November Reflections

November seems to have gone by pretty quickly, it’s been a good month for us as a family. For me it has been a month of learning. I have learnt so many new things regarding my roles as wife and mum.

Every new parent will attest to the fact that a baby changes things in a relationship and we are no exception. One habit we developed in the last couple of months and really enforced this month has been; spending time together once the baby in bed every night. I have learnt to be consistent with D’s bedtime,ensuring that he is in bed early, giving the hubs and me time together.

We attended a Couples’ Timeout event organised by our church around mid-November, we had to take D with us because we didn’t have any child-care arrangement, but it was fun still. The event was on a Saturday and started about mid afternoon and was over by about 7:30/8pm. The theme was Submitting to one another. I can honestly say that before then I never heard of this portion of the Bible because the usual emphasised verse is the one regarding wives submitting to their own husbands. The guest speaker was Pastor Ruth Essien and I must say I was refuelled by her talk.

Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
– Ephesians 5:21

Something else I learnt or discovered this month is regarding being a wife, mother and homemaker. At several times we have discussed the issue of getting help around the house, but I do not feel the need for that right now. Sure, it would be great to have someone to take the load off me and not have to do certain tasks, but I have discovered that with proper planning and management I can accomplish most of my tasks without getting overwhelmed. Funny enough, it was one of the questions that came up during the interactive sessions of the Couples’ Retreat. I now manage my tasks spreading them out over the various days of the week.

Yes, November was a learning month and the number one thing intake away with me is making time for the important relationships in my life.

Don’t Hate! Appreciate!

Don’t Hate! Appreciate!

What you resist persists

-Carl Yung

One thing I have come to utilise in my life is appreciation, appreciation of the qualities I love in the people.

In conflict situations, the tendency is to focus on and let the other person know their qualities that you hate; which may have also been the cause of the conflict. Choosing to focus on the flaws of family and loved ones only makes the flaws become more pronounced.

A while ago the fiancé and I had a row, after several dead-end conversations focusing on flaws and weaknesses; I decided to take some time to write a list. A list of all the qualities I love and admire about him.

Writing the list brought to mind a lot of fun and lovely moments, and all the thoughtful things he does for me. Amongst others, some of the things I noted are;

  • His sense of humour (we are really goofy together)
  • His supportiveness (he’s my number one critic and number one fan)
  • His kind heart
  • His ability to relate to a lot of people
  • I love that he listens to me talk about Eastenders, but draws the line on hearing about Corrie.
  • His gift choosing abilities  (he gives great gifts)
  • His financial planning abilities

This week in all your relationships, focus on positives; individual strengths and qualities you love. I bet you, you will see more of the positive shining through like I have!