November seems to have gone by pretty quickly, it’s been a good month for us as a family. For me it has been a month of learning. I have learnt so many new things regarding my roles as wife and mum.
Every new parent will attest to the fact that a baby changes things in a relationship and we are no exception. One habit we developed in the last couple of months and really enforced this month has been; spending time together once the baby in bed every night. I have learnt to be consistent with D’s bedtime,ensuring that he is in bed early, giving the hubs and me time together.
We attended a Couples’ Timeout event organised by our church around mid-November, we had to take D with us because we didn’t have any child-care arrangement, but it was fun still. The event was on a Saturday and started about mid afternoon and was over by about 7:30/8pm. The theme was Submitting to one another. I can honestly say that before then I never heard of this portion of the Bible because the usual emphasised verse is the one regarding wives submitting to their own husbands. The guest speaker was Pastor Ruth Essien and I must say I was refuelled by her talk.
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
– Ephesians 5:21
Something else I learnt or discovered this month is regarding being a wife, mother and homemaker. At several times we have discussed the issue of getting help around the house, but I do not feel the need for that right now. Sure, it would be great to have someone to take the load off me and not have to do certain tasks, but I have discovered that with proper planning and management I can accomplish most of my tasks without getting overwhelmed. Funny enough, it was one of the questions that came up during the interactive sessions of the Couples’ Retreat. I now manage my tasks spreading them out over the various days of the week.
Yes, November was a learning month and the number one thing intake away with me is making time for the important relationships in my life.
Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away. – Barbara de Angelis
I did a Google search of quotes related to balanced (living a balanced life) and this caught my attention. I need this.
I keep seeing these television shows where an individual gets an extreme makeover, resulting in a change from drab to dazzling. Often times, it involves a change of clothes, a haircut and some serious grooming. This individual then raves about how his or her life has been transformed. Fun to watch, but is it really possible for their entire lives to be transformed in such a short time?
Granted the makeover will increase self-confidence and the like, but I believe if the underlying issues are not dealt with, no progress has been made. Going with a self-image theme, even supermodels, celebrities and famous folks have issues and some may result to drugs and experience eating disorders (anorexia, bulimia), amongst others. A makeover doesn’t guarantee self-love.
Over the years I have been in contact with different people with their differences and sometimes noticed collective similarities between these people. I will just highlight one a couple of personalities I have noticed recently.
There is the person who because of love or friendship would go through any means to change certain things about himself or herself. This can mean someone suddenly realising the need to lose weight just for the purpose of attracting a love interest or to fit into a clique. All he or she wants is love and acceptance.
Another person continually feels down and in the dumps with feelings of not being good enough. He or she sees everyone around falling in love, living happy, content and successful lives and that causes some form of depression. This person can spend so much time wishing for another person’s life and become increasingly discontent with his/her own situation.
These kind of issues cannot go away just like that; self-love takes more time than a six hour makeover. I believe it is a conscious effort to accept your strengths and flaws. It is also the decision to grow by working on any personal flaws.